I gave up on what we would call an emotionally and verbally abusive marriage. I kept it together for the kids for as long as I could, but I finished the day I walked out that door. I left with a couple of suitcases full of clothes and shoes, nothing else.
I make twice as much as he does and he hides at least 1/3 of his income in cash. I keep my name on his car and on the house he lives in because there is no way he can get anything from his income. I give him more than the state requires because he claims he can't afford a house without alimony. I also filed for divorce https://onlinedivorcer.com/online-divorce-north-dakota just because he doesn't have access to the employer's health insurance, of which I also pay a portion. I left all the furniture, dishes, everything - I didn’t take anything.
I'm just really struggling today. How much more can I give this person who refuses to cooperate effectively or be a co-parent? I know I screwed myself, but all I wanted was to create some stability for my boys during our family transition. I just wanted to leave, and he got so angry that he was ready to throw away everything that I gave away, blaming me. I just do not understand.